Magic Mondays. They were exactly what it sounds like. Every Monday, after Jason and I would drop off Weiland to daycare, we would head over to Wilma & Frieda’s. (Best breakfast in the desert) After about an hour and a half of delicious food, amazing coffee, and good conversation we would head home. Jason would go on a long ride and I would either get a pedicure or just have some quiet time at home. We would then come back together in the afternoon to do some kind of job around the house. I’ll admit it, Mondays were my favorite day of the week. Yes, my favorite day of the week did not include my son. Just keeping it real 🙂
Jason and I didn’t always have Magic Mondays. Once Weiland came into our lives, it turned us upside down. I never knew how selfish I really was until I became a mom. By far the hardest adjustment for me was going from no kids to 1 kid. Then I struggled with so much guilt since I wanted a baby so bad, and then complained so much once he came…that’s for another post at another time 🙂
We had been married 5 years without kids so we had a routine of spontaneity and doing what we wanted, when we wanted. Double income and no kids meant awesome vacations, coffee dates, hanging late at night with friends, and then of course, sleeping in just to name a few amazing realities when you don’t have children.
When Dub’s turned about 18 months old it hit Jason and I that we needed to date again. And, then Magic Monday was born. It was during this season that I realized the importance of dating our spouse. Weiland is now 5 and now that we have multiple kids it is no longer financially responsible for us to do Magic Mondays. But, dating has not stopped. We make it a point to go on a date at least once a week. It may be breakfast, coffee, or a hike. It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that we have that time to connect without the distraction of the kids.
I get it, life gets busy. Sports, work, homework, and/or church consume our days. If we don’t make our marriages a priority we may survive, but we will not thrive. I know for me, outside of the Lord, my marriage is my most important relationship and I have to take care of it as best as I can. Right now we are in a really busy season. REALLY BUSY. Because of this, I knew I had to fight hard to make sure Jason and I don’t lose our weekly date. Because of this I will text one of our sitters the beginning of the week and ask her when she is available for the week. Then I will pick one of her available times and make that our date.
I know that if you are married and reading this, you know that marriage is hard. It is SO HARD. Because of this, we need to do everything in our power to make it and keep it a priority. You may be thinking, “I don’t have money for a babysitter or to go on a date.” It doesn’t have to be anything expensive. Two hours would be $20-$30 for a sitter. Then you can go on a hike, a walk, a drive, or maybe just go and get coffee. You will be a better parent if you and your spouse are doing well.
Life is too short to be too busy for those we love. Take care of yourself and take care of your marriage. Nothing good ever comes out of neglect.
So, pick up your phone. Text a sitter. Schedule a date. Let me know how it goes! 🙂